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Hello, this is Lita here Goddess of Growth here to do another episode of Empowerment Diaries. Today we’re looking at the power of rewriting our story, revisiting the past so that we can have a freer future. Being in the present and being free is very much a

great victory also. And ultimately as we age, present is all we have. Present is all we have throughout all of our lives. But as we age, we become more aware of time and space. Having the courage to revisit our story without allowing it to bring us down is really key.

to freeing our minds and freeing our soul and maybe if you have the opportunity to speak to the characters that were involved in your story taking that opportunity now might be the key to freeing not just your mind but your path. In the UK we do have

the thoughts of having what they call a stiff upper lip or the phrase keep calm and carry on. I am of British-born Jamaican heritage and it is the case that we are often encouraged to be like comedians in the workspace. One would speak the best English possible when we’re in our community.

tapping into patois. We adapt ourselves, we’re like the natural multilingual or bilingual ⁓ people in the society that we are in the UK. But either way, whichever culture you are from, there’s often this hidden instruction

that whatever you’re going through needs to be kept quiet and people generally shouldn’t know about it. Maybe because there’s issues connected to shame, maybe because the issues are directly linked to your immediate family. And of course, from young age to old age, we have things like social media now.

that could have a huge effect on our life chances especially when we’re thinking about work, growth, career and so forth. But truly the stiff upper lip in my opinion can lead to a lot of ailments not just mentally, physically too.

There’s something about just holding on to something that feels uncomfortable no matter what is going on that really doesn’t fully resonate and our bodies start to rebel. Previously I’ve gone through my

modality of choice for therapy, emotional freedom techniques which is a really great tool to continually help tapping into how we’re feeling right now, it doesn’t dismiss how we feel it connects with it and just asks us to just check in as to if what we’re feeling is rooted into the truth or not and even if it is rooted in the truth the question still is the case where it remains

to be asked even if it’s true is there anything that you can do about it right now and often when you ask anyone how they are they spend a bit of time thinking about what just happened or moments before or weeks before or years before or maybe how they’d like to feel in the future

very few tap into this moment and in this very moment this might be the very moment that we actually feel okay. We’re comfortable, we can breathe, nothing is in mind, we can relax. In this moment we are often okay.

There is a difference between accepting the past and being stuck in it and I do know through my own journey of life of being in that repetition, repetition, repetition and freeing myself from it to the point where it’s quite a lot of energy for me now to talk about the past, childhood and so.

However, the universe has a way of bringing our past to us in increments for us to deal with it and it does happen in the strangest ways.

So personally I have been transitioning my career. I recently took on a post as a creator network manager through a social media platform TikTok.

And my task is to talent manage and grow a productive and successful live agency, basically working with creators to encourage them to host successful live streams on TikTok.

Now for those that know me, I have actually been transitioning my career for the last two, almost two and a half years now. Finance has disappeared, the old way was no longer working, so I had to find ways to promote my consultancy, my hypnotherapy, my coaching.

I decided and was encouraged to join TikTok as the up and coming growing modality to grow in social media on social media and somehow I ended up going to LifeStream with a view of promoting my business. Well life doesn’t often go in a straight line does it?

instead of just doing my business I did get involved with other things shoppable content, networking. I managed to host just a couple subscriptions where I was able to provide coaching, nothing significant.

So roll forward to 2025 being given this opportunity, offer this opportunity to run my very own creator network. I do believe it is the great opportunity to share all the experiences that I have accumulated on the platform and off the platform for growth.

It’s given me an opportunity to do what I enjoy, which is coaching. And those that I coach will not need to pay me a thing because the platform will be able to pay me according to what is earned going live stream. It does not come out of the creator’s income. It is something that is paid directly from the platform to the creator network. Stories.

The interesting thing is for a while I felt as if the

platform had actually stopped my work from going out, from being seen, but evidently something was being seen.

and I find myself in this space now changing careers of sorts and having to believe in my ability not just to coach but to also succeed at yet another new business.

stories.

I’ve recently this year around April received a plot on an allotment to look after all on my own.

In fact when I registered my details in 2020 I was told it would be likely that I wouldn’t get it because there was a 10 year waiting list. Lo and behold five years later almost the plot was offered to me and I’m telling you it has been work.

and I woke up one morning quite frustrated and I was saying to the universe why have you given this plot to me and I do not have the resources the finances the time whatever it takes to get the plot how I would like it to be to make it viable it really doesn’t make sense by day end I had

a few resolutions about the plot. I was able to go and pick some fruit. Fruit has actually ripened much earlier than expected this year. They’re very much in season. I was expecting the currants and so raspberries to be ready by end of June July but they’re ready. Anyhow in going to the plot

I met a couple that have a space there and apparently the team of them had spoken and they were thinking of offering their time to assist me in clearing the plot. Apparently the plot had become overrun over two years and they felt it was a bit unfair to give me the plot to take on with so much work needing to be done.

So there we have the universe, even before I started complaining to the universe, working out a solution for me so that I will be able to move forward and create a space on the land, on the plot, where it will be something that I’ll be able to use it gracefully, usefully, productively.

That has been the theme of my life really over the last two and a half years. Help and support has come from unexpected places and part of me, and this is the story I tell myself, has been a bit annoyed that all the work that I’ve been doing I have not been able to cover myself.

on my own given all the hours and time spent so there is a bit of annoyance about that for sure but looking at all the angels and the support that I’ve received over the last two and a half years I do believe life is really truly amazing. It’s as if I am being reminded that actually when support is needed and I’m on the right path

support will be provided, but without opening my mind and challenging my ideas on help and support it can often seem quite difficult even to ask for help or receive help.

A lot of our ideas about receiving assistance, whether it be loans, whether it be assistance putting up a frame in the house, help with a garden, help cooking a meal. A lot of those ideas we take on from our parents and our ancestors, environment.

and sometimes spirit does remind us that actually this life that we’re living it isn’t a solitary affair it is one that is very much reliant on connections and collaboration even those that choose to live off-grid they rely on others collecting foods

presenting spaces that they themselves can use whether or not they pay for it.

One of our challenges is to tap into our sense of guilt, our sense of shame for asking for assistance or needing assistance. The fact of the matter is the majority of the population, and if this is a fact, they would not survive if they did not have support.

I would say all and everyone that we meet needed some level of support and still need support to be able to live the life that we’re whether we admit it or not. And today, 2025, more people have become aware of their need for support. The cost of living crisis.

There’s definitely anxiety. All I keep hearing from others is I speak to clients and so, ⁓ dear, the costs just keep going up and up and up. And sometimes we can look at the costs without looking at the rest of the picture. We are being tasked, we are being asked to connect, to partner, to collaborate. ⁓

This is the trajectory, this is what we are being tasked by spirit to do, to come together, to identify our strengths and connect it, balance out our weaknesses by coming together with others that will balance out our weaknesses, complement our strengths. We’re now looking at our personal identity in a whole new way.

and we’re thinking about our personal identity, we understand resources in our hands aren’t the only influence. The best currency at this time, especially when you’re thinking about social media, even stocks and shares, the best currency at this time is really your connection to people that you know. ⁓

So when you’re assessing your story, maybe now is the time to start looking at how much time you’re taking and putting aside to nurture relationships. And I’m not talking about the relationships you’ve had since childhood that never change. We are growing and as we are growing, we are evolving and we all need to have relationships that reflect our growth.

whether they be challenging or otherwise. As we grow, the majority of the people around us will change. Are you open to that change? If not, why not?

Now I know there’s a number of people that like to consider the English language and there’s this idea if you change the meaning of certain words to positive then life will be positive and so I challenge you to question that part of the story.

Ultimately it’s not so much what we think but what we feel about our story. We can change all the words, we can change the identities, it doesn’t take away the nuance, it doesn’t take away the feeling or does it?

We are taught often to be polite and I suspect this idea of changing words makes us feel as if we’ve got more control over circumstances. But when we are challenged, that emotion, that feeling that prevents us from looking at the bigger picture is what comes forward. We are challenged to look at our story on a micro level

through family and friend lens but let’s not forget what we are seeing in our immediate circle is often replicated in the world at large.

It is so easy when we hear something on the news to say them they. And often we do not acknowledge that the same behaviour we are seeing on the news is the same behaviour that’s happening in our household, our family unit, our friend connection.

and this is often the case until we start identifying and tapping into our story to really zone in to what is true. As we confront our story, the characters change, the life experience change, we no longer need those mirrors to come back to us to show us places in our life that needs healing because that’s all it is really, a lifetime of being challenged with different scenarios

different stories to check into our values and return us back to love and connection with ourselves first and each other. Can we truly free ourselves without understanding our story and what it is that we have tapped into and used to encourage levels of oppression even.

This word trauma gets bounded around quite frequently these days and yes there’s loads of traumatic events. The fact of the matter is it affects us all differently. It’s all about what story we are running at the time when the so-called traumatic event happens.

9 11 I was in Barbados at the time I’d gone to a beach and in fact I had observed the planes going into the buildings I thought I was watching a movie even I remember the flight home to the UK it being so surreal that I remember them being worried about giving us water you know liquids and so forth

That was my story, it wasn’t traumatic at all. I was on the beach and I found out and I remember going home to my sisters and questioned if they’d heard about it. We don’t generally watch the news when we’re abroad. We turned on the television and was like, wow. Years later, I heard how my sister who was in the UK had experienced the whole scenario.

And for the first time I was challenged to empathise with those that were in the UK hearing about what had happened. Offices had closed down in London, the whole of London was under, in a panic. Businesses, government offices were closed, people had to walk rather than take the bus home.

lots of first security measures were put in place almost I suppose the measures that they would put in place at wartime it’s not a memory I have because I did not go through it but there’s so many more that would have gone through at that time and isn’t it interesting a lot of us in the UK will talk about 9-11

We often do not remember the big events that happened in the UK where we had bombings here as well, even though I know older colleagues were personally affected.

So stories are there to challenge us, wake us up and to connect in. Check in to how we are connected to any given scenario and each other.

and until we take that time to question the story, think about the global environment at the time, think about the emotion, who was around, what actually happened and if you can go back to ask questions until we do that, it’s hard to be free. And when I talk about addressing the story I don’t mean that traumatic repetition of things that happened years ago.

because I know we’ve all done that or the majority of us have and made little progress. So this is about rewriting the narrative, addressing the narrative and being in a position to rewrite it. So I’ve mentioned before journaling, writing the story, being prepared to spend some time, get a book, get a pen and write.

when you’re ready you could reread it, you can keep it for a while and then tear the pages and burn it, not before of course you check in, was it true? And if it’s true what does it mean for you? Therapy is also an option whether it be hypnotherapy or if you want to go for counselling, we are our story.

what we think about ourselves resonates out into the world and from personal experience sitting and talking to friends and family may not always be healing. There are friends and families that will often appease or try to soothe.

As you age you come to realise there will be many people that sit and talk with us, with you, and you will think that they fully understand you and they’re on the same page, they get it. And actually when you readdress the situation years later you will find nothing could be further from the truth actually.

there was no agreement, we learned that actually someone’s silence whilst they listen is not a sign they agree with you at all, they’re just giving you that space to communicate. You might feel really connected, finally someone listens and someone understands, but truly according to my own personal experience…

it’s the case that very few people fully resonate with the experience that you’re going through, very few. Some of us are blessed, I have been very blessed, aunts and so that have been able to not just witness my story but also reaffirm my story. Unfortunately not many people have that.

So taking time out to go and see a therapist, a counsellor, someone outside of your network so that you can just speak and get it out of your system is helpful too. But don’t stay long in that space. Honesty is important too. You need to be prepared to ask questions.

Coaching is the tool that can start asking you questions. Yes, so that happened and that happened and that happened. It’s 10 years now. How is it affecting you today? Is that by choice?

What’s the benefit of you holding onto that opinion, that story today? What are you getting out of it? Is this the time now to let go of your old story? At what point will be the right time?

What do you lose by letting your story go? What do you gain by letting your story go?

Culture can play a significant factor as into how we hold on to our story. There’s some kind of honour and medal, one would say, especially if you’re coming from Caribbean roots, to have been raised in a family where corporal punishment was used and you were able to survive it somehow.

It’s almost seen as you’re a weaker minded individual if you were even to dare to think, to talk about it being something that affected you mentally, emotionally or otherwise.

taking that decision and step to review your story and heal your story, distance yourself from your story and maybe do something different with the next generation, your children, your nieces, your nephews, your connections, that decision could actually distance you from your culture.

because here you are taking your story and healing it affecting your ancestors, your previous generations and generations to come.

not everybody has the energy or the mindset to do that work but that is work that a select few will do.

It’s about acknowledging that our identities can be very present regardless of what we’ve been through. In spite of what we’ve been through.

So today I am reflecting on our story and what is it that we need to do to really just check into our narrative, the small steps that we’re able to take and focus on so that we can now take our power back, empower ourselves even if it means rewriting our story.

question as we come to a close what’s the one story you’ve told yourself that no longer serves you what is the one story you’ve told yourself that no longer serves you when you get familiar with your story

When others attempt to tell you your story or use your story against you it will not bother you because you’ll understand that there’s a real power in your journey in your story and the lens that you’ve been looking at yourself it just widens.

opportunities come you’re able to connect more easily with others even without asking it’s like the universe starts putting new experiences newer connections in your life there’s less fear-based focus there’s more love there’s more connection it doesn’t happen overnight it does take an effort it takes an intention

Start with the journaling, look at your story and be focused on your story. If you’re now ready to empower your life, free your future, free your mind.

Empowerment Diaries is what you’ve been listening to. This is Lita, Goddess of Growth. Please do remember to connect, do comment below and together we are going to use our stories to heal ourselves and to free our minds, free our lives. Thank you.

Rewriting Your Story: How to Revisit the Past and Free Your Future

Hello, beautiful soul. In this episode of Empowerment Diaries®, we are looking at the power of rewriting our story—revisiting the past so that we can have a freer future. As we age, we become more aware that the present is all we truly have. Having the courage to revisit your story without allowing it to bring you down is the ultimate victory for your mind and soul.

In this conversation, I dive deep into:

• ‘Stiff Upper Lip’ Narrative: How British and Caribbean cultural instructions to “keep quiet” can lead to physical and mental ailments.
• A Shift in Career: My transition to becoming a Creator Network Manager and how my own story of survival evolved into an opportunity to thrive.
• The Allotment Lesson: A personal story of how the universe provided support exactly when I was ready to give up on my new plot of land.
• The Best Currency: Why connection and collaboration are more valuable than any resource in our current 2026 climate.

Revisiting your story isn’t about stuck-record repetition; it’s about addressing the narrative so you can reclaim your power. Whether through journaling, therapy, or simply questioning “Is it true?”, you have the ability to free your future from the weight of the past.

Listen to the full episode below. You can also read the full transcript of this story in the accordion section following the audio.

Key Themes

• Rewriting Your Story
• British Jamaican Heritage
• Stiff Upper Lip Culture
• TikTok Creator Network Manager
• Allotment Stories
• Freeing the Mind

Timestamps for Video/Audio

• 00:00 – Revisit the past to free the future
• 03:15 – Cultural identities and the “Stiff Upper Lip”
• 07:40 – My transition to Creator Network Manager
• 10:50 – The Allotment Miracle: When the universe provides
• 18:20 – The power of asking for help (Surviving vs. Thriving)

• • 25:00 – How to start rewriting your narrative today

Executive Summary

In this episode of Empowerment Diaries® , Lita, the Goddess of Growth, explores the transformative power of rewriting our personal narratives. She emphasizes the importance of revisiting the past to create a freer future and discusses the role of journaling in this process. Lita shares insights on how addressing and rewriting our stories can empower us to take back control of our lives.

Keywords

personal growth, storytelling, cultural norms, community support, emotional healing, career transitions, trauma, empowerment, self-discovery, narrative therapy

Summary

In this episode of Empowerment Diaries, Lita, the Goddess of Growth, explores the transformative power of rewriting our personal stories. She emphasizes the importance of revisiting the past to free ourselves for a brighter future, while also addressing the cultural norms that often inhibit personal growth. Lita shares her own journey of career transitions, the unexpected support she received, and the significance of community in personal development. The conversation delves into the emotional weight of our stories, the impact of trauma, and the necessity of seeking external support to heal and empower ourselves. Ultimately, Lita encourages listeners to reflect on their narratives and take steps towards rewriting them for a more fulfilling life.

Takeaways

Revisiting our past can lead to a freer future.
Cultural norms often discourage open expression of struggles.
Support can come from unexpected places during transitions.
Our stories shape our identities and experiences.
Healing our narratives can impact future generations.
Emotional weight can hinder personal growth.
Seeking external support is crucial for healing.
Community plays a vital role in personal development.
Empowerment comes from understanding and rewriting our stories.
The present moment is where we can find peace.

Titles

Rewriting Your Story for Empowerment
The Power of Community in Personal Growth

Sound bites

“The present is all we have.”
“We are our story.”
“What story no longer serves you?”

Chapters

00:00 Rewriting Our Story for a Freer Future
04:59 Navigating Career Transitions and Unexpected Opportunities
11:31 The Importance of Support and Community
15:46 Challenging Our Personal Narratives
21:10 Understanding Trauma and Its Impact
26:43 Empowering Ourselves Through Storytelling